Is strength a weakness?
February 24, 2009 at 10:59pm02 2 comments
So, when do we know that our strengths become our weaknesses? I am a very strong woman, with a strong personality, but sometimes I feel it gets in my way. I didn’t start out this way, but through the last nine years, it’s been developing. I think when you’re a single mom and responsible for everything financial and emotional, you either sink or swim. Sinking isn’t an option for me, so somewhere along the line, I turned into Michael Phelps (without the bong)! Do men really want a strong woman, or do they need someone who needs them? I’ve always taught my daughter to stand on her own feet and don’t depend on a man. Is that going to be detrimental to her? I think a woman should always have her own fu money in case she needs it and can support herself and her kids. But in terms of finding a relationship, am I supposed to be needy? I know men like to fix things for girls and be the strong one in a relationship, but it’s really hard to let them do that. I grew up with a dad who was very strong, but who also took things away when he was angry with us. I guess I’ve learned to get things for myself and not depend on someone so they don’t have the opportunity to take it. So the question is, at what point does my strength become my weakness?
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1. andibarness | February 28, 2009 at 10:59am02
You make a great point Kris. They say only the strong survive, and when you are providing for your kids (and yourself) you have no other choice, but to be strong, suck it up and take control. I thinnk that when you find the right person, and can trust them, then slowly you will let your guard down. It is only when you can trust that person, that you allow them to do for you. However, that does not mean that you will always allow Mr. Right to take care of you 100% of the time. I have been married for over 15 years, and I still have my “own” money, so that I will never have to rely on someone else for all of my wants and needs.
2. kisskiss | March 5, 2009 at 10:59pm03
You are very right Andi, it’s probably my lack of trust from fomer relationships that keeps me so guarded. And I think dealing with some nimrods that just make me go UGH! Maybe it’s the combo of I can lean on you, but in case you move, I don’t want to get my ass handed to me.