Can you be too green in dating? (recycling men/women)

Well, everyone is using the buzz term “green” for everything!  There are green hair products, housing, cars, and almost everything else we use or do. 

What about when it comes to dating?  I’ve been known to recycle in the past and it hasn’t worked out great for me.  Recycling guys, or girls for that matter, means you break up with them, then after some time passes, you start to date them again.  I used to do this a lot.  I would date someone for a while and for some reason break up (proly had to do with vacation dating!) and as time goes on, you tend to forget about the stuff that drove you crazy in the first place.  They become (in your eyes at least) the man of your dreams again!  Life is good, the blue birds are singing over your head again and then BAM!  It hits you over the head! 

There is a reason you stopped dating this person before and it really doesn’t go away, it just hides for a while.  I think the reason we go back to the same person, is we are comfortable with them and let’s face it, dating kinda sucks.  So why not recycle the love we felt before?  It’s easy, simple and you probably have clothes left at their house from before!  But can the love really be recycled?? 

I don’t think in the long run it works too often.  Not gonna say it never works, but the old shit is still there, just under a shiny coat of green paint.  Once the paint gets dinged a few times and starts peeling off, the relationship starts to shred.  I remember thinking one time as the bloom was off the rose for the third time, “oh yeah, I remember why I don’t want to date you, because the sound you make while washing your ass in the shower make me want to put daggers in my ears!”  I truly think I needed therapy after that one, don’t get me started on how he put his ‘kini underoos on.  Ugh.  I digress. 

If it didn’t work before, why the hell do we think we can make it work again??  I once spent 3 and one half years recycling a guy.  We actually only dated about 8 months of that time and just fucked with each others brains the rest of it.  What a waste of time it became looking back on it.  Is recycling that actually succeds an urban legend?  Can it work?  It never has for me and I don’t recall it working for someone else, but maybe I’m wrong?  Thoughts?

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