When SHE is just not that into you….

Well, we have all probably seen the movie or read the book,  ”He’s just not that into you”.  I loved both, but it made me think of my own little quirks when I know I’m just not into the guy.  I think for me, besides the not texting, or calling a lot, it has to do with how much I want to change him or really, his appearance. 

Now, I’m not looking for Mr. Perfect, I’m looking for Mr. Perfect for me!  I know nobody is going to have 100% of the things I want, so basically I’m shooting for 80%.  (i am an ambitious gal for goodness sake!)  I figure I can live the other 20% or change it to what I want! 

I have a bad habit my sister says of wanting to change the guys name if I don’t like it. One time, I was at a bar in Scottsdale and this guy was flirting with me and I didn’t like his name (no, i don’t remember what his real name was, i was drunky at the time!) so I called him Alex all night!  He kept telling me his name wasn’t Alex, and I told him, “it is for the night!” 

I also am not a fan of how some guys dress, or their choices in undergarments.  I’m a boxer or boxer brief or a commando kinda gal.  I hate ‘kini underwear unless you are David Beckham, or under the age of 4, or an Olympic swimmer.  Men shouldn’t wear them, they don’t look good, sorry, but a lot of us women feel that way.  Sometimes, I don’t like their shoes, or jeans or shirts.  I think a guy is really sexy in cargo shorts, flip flops, and a nice tee.  Jeans, tee shirt and flip flops do it for me too!  If they want to dress up, they can, but I live in Scottsdale and we are pretty casual here. 

So, the part when I’m not into the guy????  Well, if he is wearing the stuff I don’t like and I don’t try to change it, proly means I’m just not that into him.  I dated a guy once, and was fake engaged, (ok, my friends say I was engaged, but I never said yes, I just wore the ring for 9 months.  It was really pretty and shiny and sparkly and sometimes I’m easily distracted like right now while i’m talking bout it!)  I dated him for quite some time, and he wore ‘kini undies and I never once tried to change it.  Which means to me, looking back, that I knew I wasn’t in it for the long haul because I would have changed it!  I would never live with a guy that wears that shit!  I’m sure he would have changed it if I asked, but it wasn’t worth the effort to me!  Women love to change their guys clothes,  it’s like dressing up our own personal doll AND we get to shop!  Bonus!!!!  Cause maybe we can get some new clothes too!  If your gal aint changing something about you, your hair, clothes, home, something at least, is she that into you??  I don’t know, maybe you are Mr. Perfect!  Thoughts about this??

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