Does age matter when it comes to love??
April 15, 2009 at 10:59pm04 8 comments
Okay, so listening to the radio today, I heard that Mel Gibson is dating someone almost 30 years his junior and 5 years younger than his daughter. I’ve dated a lot older than me and never had a problem with it until recently. My average age of dating older is ten years, but I’ve gone as high as 17 years. Does it really make a difference in the age we date?
Many of my friends ask me if I’ve dated younger and I haven’t really been interested in younger men. I don’t have that “cougar” instinct. Hmmmm, maybe that’s my problem! Since I think emotionally I’m so young (my mom would say immature) I may be better suited to someone younger!
Here’s my thoughts…. In my 30′s I didn’t have a problem dating older because they were in their 40′s early 50′s. Now that I’m in my 40′s, they are pushing 60! The problem with that is, the age gap is going to continue to get larger because they are going to be slowing down and I’m still going to be (at least in my mind) younger. Do I really want to be 50 and be with someone in their late 60′s?? A friend of mine married a man 17 years her senior and it wasn’t really noticeable until he hit 70. Then the health problems started and it was really difficult.
I also find that even though I have a lot in common with older men, I also have a lot of differences. Music, movies and even sex (I want it more than they do) can be challenges because we have different frames of references and different sex drives. I’m now gravitating to men that are within 7-8 years of my age, because it just seems easier and less complicated.
Not sure about the younger man thing, many of my friends are trying it, with a lot of success actually! So, how old is too old and how young is too young? Anyone have thoughts??
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1. tommy | April 15, 2009 at 10:59pm04
it largely depends on what you’re looking for.
but, oh, wait… it doesn’t.
I think age doesn’t matter wheter you’re looking for love or fun, I guess, withing certain limits related to common sense. Well, regarding “fun” this may be only partially true, while regarding love I’m pretty sure age *shouldn’t* be a concern.
another story is to try understanding why you usually date older men rather then younger ones or alikes, but honestly… who cares?
wish you the best,
Tommy.
2. kisskiss | April 15, 2009 at 10:59pm04
I have thought about me always going for the older guys. I have been attracted to powerful, protective guys and that usually comes with the older package. Now, since that hasn’t worked out real well, I’m trying to figure out what I need and want. Thanks so much for commenting Tommy!
3. awisewoman | April 15, 2009 at 10:59pm04
I’m a Cougar and proud of it. I’m in a committed, loving relationship with a younger man. There are differences, on a maturity level, but for the most part, he keeps me young physically and emotionally. And since I’m older and no longer care for drama, it makes for a harmonious, yet fun loving relationship. We have a great time together.
You won’t know until you try. And remember 40 is now the new 30, so go for it!.
4. kisskiss | April 15, 2009 at 10:59pm04
How much younger may I ask? I love your confidence! A friend of mine who is 28 is only attracted to older women and he says it’s because he thinks they are classier and drama free. He thinks I should date younger too! Thanks for the comment!
5. awisewoman | April 16, 2009 at 10:59am04
He’s more than 8 years my junior, and he’s so giving and goes above and beyond to please me. Younger men love older women because they’re sexier, classier and are DRAMA free. That’s part of the attraction. They love it that we’re experienced sexually too. Dating older men has it’s pro’s as well. Try dating a younger man and see how it goes. By the way, there’s new reality show called “The Cougar” coming to TV Land..should be interesting to watch.
6. kisskiss | April 16, 2009 at 10:59am04
You truly have to love a “giver”! I saw the previews, and the woman is from my town! You know, I think it’s funny that there is so much being made of an older woman dating younger, when men have been doing it forever and are congratulated for it! My ex’s wife is 15 years younger and nobody makes a big deal about it.
7. awisewoman | April 16, 2009 at 10:59pm04
I guess the old “double standard” still applies.
8. kisskiss | April 17, 2009 at 10:59am04
I know and it kind of sucks. It’s interesting they have a show about a cougar, but not one about a dirty old man!!!