Are we being forced to be cougars??
April 26, 2009 at 10:59am04 6 comments
Well, my sister and got out of the house last night and went to meet a girlfriend of mine who was hanging out with some guy friends. It was a pre bachelor party for one of the young pups and they were at a local Scottsdale hang out. The bar was packed with men and women and we were in the VIP area, so that was nice.
When we got there, we noticed that all the guys in the party were much younger than us. I’m talking 25-35 range and all were very nice and friendly. As the evening progressed, my sissy and I decided to do some research on dating different ages. We were asking the guys their preferences on dating and what ages they were usually going for. A lot of them said they didn’t like dating women in their low 20′s because they were insecure with themselves, their sexuality and haven’t had a lot of life experiences. They liked dating older women, but the older women didn’t want to date them because they (the guys) weren’t as financially established in their careers and may want kids and issues like that. So where does that leave the 25-35 guys?
Now, the 45-55 year old men, want to date 22-29 year old women, because I think it makes them feel younger that they can still get a girl that age. The younger girls go for these guys because they do have more money (usually) and are pretty confident. Confused yet? I know I am!
Where does that leave the 25-35 range guys and the 40 something women? We don’t want to date someone 60, because that’s too old, and the guys our age are looking at the 20 somethings, so are we being forced to become cougars? We are young acting, young looking (thanks to lasers and botox!) and want to have fun. If the guys in our ages don’t want to date us, we have to go older or younger.
The younger guys last night, were much more attentive than guys my age have been with me and that was really refreshing. They were chatty, funny and trying really hard to make a good impression. That doesn’t happen with men our age. Those guys seem to take us for granted, that we are desperate for attention and will just fall all over them to get a drink. (BTW, older guys, ain’t gonna happen with a girl like me, I can buy my own drink)
This dating dilemma has me thinking. For procreation, neither scenario is going to be effective. Older men already have their kids as do older women and probably don’t want to have anymore. Younger ones will want kids eventually and are stuck with someone who isn’t going to give them that option. So are we dating ourselves into extinction?? Are we being forced to date out of our age range do to what is attractive to the opposite sex? Thoughts??
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1. How I Lost Thirty Pounds in Thirty Days | May 3, 2009 at 10:59pm05
Hi, nice post. I have been pondering this issue,so thanks for posting. I will certainly be coming back to your blog.
2. kisskiss | May 6, 2009 at 10:59pm05
thanks for such a nice comment, come back any time!
3. mnboy | May 5, 2009 at 10:59am05
Well, I for one am a 27 year old male whom of which prefers to date older women. Have been in several relationships with women that are 8-15 years older than I. They seem to have s certain “class” about them and are truly much more fun to be with than younger ones. The only down side to dating older women is that sometimes they dont have the energy or desire to do spontaneous things as the young bucks – but they are still HOT! GO COUGARS!!!
4. kisskiss | May 5, 2009 at 10:59pm05
hahahahahah! I loved this comment! There are lots of us older gals who have no problem keeping up, you need to find one of those! Thanks for visiting!
5. thecougar | June 10, 2009 at 10:59am06
Great post. Good insight. I think the dating scene is insane no matter the circumstances. Cougars are a growing trend in the media giving us a lot of attention but no one must be FORCED into this scenario. Most of us are here because we want to be! =)
The Cougar
6. kisskiss | June 11, 2009 at 10:59am06
Thanks for reading and commenting! I love seeing strong, confident women! You go girl!