Internet Connections (part one)

So, I used to date using the Internet, you know like Match.  A friend of mine recently had been on match and we were talking about the insecurity it breeds.  Let’s say you meet someone and hit if off on a date and maybe you go on a few more dates and really like each other.  When is it time to hide your profile?  I remember dating someone and every time I would get back on Match, I immediately looked to see if he had hid his profile.  You don’t want to ask them to do so, you just want them to want to. 

It seems that the women hide their profiles first, is it a sign they are looking for commitment?  Are the guys leaving theirs open to show they are still available?  Do you both have to agree to take your profiles off at the same time?  Are there any rules????  What happens if you both decide to hide your profiles and then one opens theirs back up and the other person sees it? It leads to a lot of doubt and insecurity. 

I love the guys who say they are closing their account, but then have their profile opened up.  I was a match aficionado (not by choice, but by necessity) and know very well how it works. ( BTW guys, you don’t have to open your profile to close your account, they are two separate functions.)  That happened to my sister and the guy swore he was just trying to close it up.  Well, that also ended it for my sister and him. 

When you’re match dating, it’s very unnerving to see what the other person is up too and I’m not sure if it’s very healthy for the relationship.  I think Match is a good way to meet people you might not have met, but it also can derail some potential relationships because we know too much.  Your thoughts??

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