Pick one… alone, or in a shitty relationship

Which one would you rather be in?  By yourself, or in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill you, but you have a plus one.  I think a lot of people pick the relationship because they are afraid of being by themselves. I see men and women who just can’t be alone, so they are with someone who makes them miserable.  WTF is up with that?  Is it worth it? 

 I would rather be by myself than pissed off constantly at someone.  If the what I hate about you list is longer than the what I love about you list, you need to rethink your relationship.  I was in a relationship not too long out of my divorce.  I didn’t really know myself at that point, and was satisfied for a while with this man.  Now, this guy was nice, treated me well, but was very possessive about me.  That’s where the cloth started to unravel.  As I found myself again, I started to resent the intrusiveness of his presence.  He would push harder and I would pull back harder.  It finally got to it’s breaking point when I found myself telling him, “you’re so not the boss of me” several times a day.  Now, I hadn’t been by myself in many years, but I knew if I couldn’t be happy by myself, how could I be happy with someone else?  Never expect someone to make you happy, that’s your job.  Men can enhance your life, make it even sweeter than it is, but you should be able to be happy on your couch curled up with just you.