Is Cougar a bad word??
May 7, 2009 at 10:59pm05 2 comments
Obviously there has been a lot of talk about women being cougars, they even made a reality show about it! Funny thing is the woman is from my town and her son used to go to school with my kids. Now, guys have dated younger women for centuries. There is even a joke about it, the half your age plus one.
We have never judged men too harshly for doing this, actually the girl gets the brunt of that usually being called a gold digger. Why is that? We don’t make a point of calling the guy a cradle robber, we just whisper that she must be in it for the money, not he’s in it for the sex. So now women are doing the same thing and it seems like everyone is talking about it! Why do we have such double standards when it comes to dating out of your generation?
I know that I’ve been attracted to men older than me, but I do have more in common with the younger guys. We listen to the same music, like to go do different things and like more sex. Now, I’m not a pour a beer down a funnel in my mouth kind of gal, (wonder if you can do that with wine) but generally speaking I am of a younger mindset.
We tend to judge women more harshly with everything. If a women is successful at work, people assume she slept her way there, if she is a stay at home mom, she doesn’t care about being successful. All of this shit just sucks!
I wonder when we will get to the point when we look at a younger man/older woman combo and think they are just a happy couple? I admit, I’m guilty of it too. I had a friend of mine ask me if I would be on the cover of a local magazine because they needed someone in my age range. When I found out it was because they were doing it for an article on cougars, I said no way! I didn’t want my picture being associated with that word. A few years later, I’m wondering what is the big deal? My son said he wouldn’t want me on a reality TV show like that, so it reaches farther than just my age group. I guess as we get older and more mature in my quest for love, the labels are starting to fall away and we realize that we just want to be happy. And that happiness may come in a different package than what we’ve been used to.
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1. eireval | May 10, 2009 at 10:59pm05
Hey, great site. I just wanted to say that I despise the term ‘cougar’ and I wish I’d never heard it. I’m 37 and I love guys who are younger than me (early 20s to 30s) and find them extremely fun to date. The age difference never seems to bother them and they aren’t threatened by my success or independence.
The problems with dating younger guys usually comes up when they ponder the idea of settling down, even if that day is years away. The fact that I don’t want any more kids (I have two from my previous marriage) usually causes the most problems for me.
2. kisskiss | May 10, 2009 at 10:59pm05
Thanks for reading and commenting! I think you’re right about the kid thing. I don’t even want to date men with young ones because I’ve already got teens and don’t want to go backwards!