Don’t want no cheap ass man!

Last weekend, I had a girls night out with some wonderful friends.  We got together, had way too many cocktails (thank God for cabs) and started hashing out one of their relationships.  My friend J, has been dating a guy for a few months.  She had just gotten out of a relationship with a guy who was in med school.  After they broke up, I found out that during their time together, she was paying for everything!  The trips they took, dinners, all of it.  Now, he is in med school, but there is something about a guy that is letting a women pay for everything that rubs me wrong. 

You may say that I’m setting a double standard here because I do like guys paying for my dinner, but since women get called golddiggers, cougars and other things, I think it’s fair.  Now please stop with the hating, I’m not having a guy pay my bills here, I’m very self sufficient.  But, when I go out with a man, it’s expected that he pays most of the time.  I don’t even do the “fake wallet reach” any more. 

Back to my friend…. She is now in a relationship with a successful doctor who is in his mid 50′s.  She is still paying for most everything.  On her birthday, he took her to an okay dinner and for a Harley ride after.  He then told her the Harley ride was worth about $300 because that’s what it would cost if she rented one.  WTF???????  I told her the next morning in my hangover induced semi-coma that the blow job she gave him probably had a street value of $500.  Maybe I should email former Governor Spitzer to find out what a hooker costs so J knows how much to charge her boyfriend for a night of sex.  Just a thought. 

Seriously though, why do some women find only cheap guys?  Is it a “I want a cheap ass man” vibe that she is putting out there??  My friend is beautiful, very successful and one of the nicest girls I know.  She has a bad habit of dating these types of men though.  I’ve had some bad habits in the past in my dating, like guys who give you things and try and take them back, but at least they are paying for dinner.  BTW, they aren’t getting dinner back, I’m not bulimic.   Okay, that was a little gross. 

Anyway, I’m just putting it out there, no girl wants to date a cheap ass man and no girl should have to date one.