It’s not you it’s ME!!!! (yea, right)

How many of us have been broken up with the old excuse, “It’s not you, it’s me! Well, it really is you, but I don’t want to feel like an ass so I’m going to blame myself.”  I have talked to soooo many women that have heard this. 

It may be the guy, but more than likely, you both are in a different place in life, or he just doesn’t like you that much.  It’s not anything you do, but maybe he wants a commitment now and you can’t do it, or you aren’t compatible in a lot of ways.  Men tend to want what they want and when they want it.  Not blaming them, I like that also, but as a single woman and mom, I have a lot of priorities that keep me from jumping through hoops. 

One priority is me (don’t I sound like a guy??).  I love my life and have worked very hard to get where I am and I’m not about to ditch it for a supposedly idyllic life which is dependent on another person approving of what I do and who I am.  I know I’m not the right person for every man, but every man is also not the right person for me! 

People tell me I intimidate men, I don’t really think I do, but I do have very strong opinions of myself and my wants and if that’s scary, then deal with it.  I sometimes feel like a guy trapped in a girl suit.  They (women) tell me to be softer and more gentle, but then I have the opportunity to be funny and loud and there I go! 

 So back to the it’s not you thing.  A friend of mine recently went out with this guy and basically on the first date, he was proposing marriage!  Now, who the hell is going to do that??  Maybe someone who is financially in dire straights, or emotionally needy.  My friend is smart and pretty and basically the “how am I still single” person, and I told her she would be nuts to sell her home and move in with him.  Could I be wrong?  Abso-f-in-lutely.  But, if something it right, won’t it be right 6 months from now? 

As much as I admire people for going with their hearts, where does the head come in??  I am talking bout the one on the shoulders BTW!  When someone tells you it’s not you, consider yourself grateful and God was watching over you.  It may sting for a minute as all rejection does, but it’s just like a band aid, a little ouchy, but fast.  And it gives you more opportunities to find your Mr. Right.