Me, Myself and I

My sister dated this guy back in our home state and when she moved out here, broke it off.  They had a really great relationship (most of the time!) but long distance didn’t really work for them mostly because the guy can’t be by himself even for a short period of time.  There are people out there, men and women, who don’t know how to go it alone. 

I remember when I first got divorced, I didn’t have many single friends here to go out with.  So, I forced myself to go out by myself.  Was it a lot of fun?  Sometimes it was, because I got to observe a lot of human interaction around me without having to make sure who ever I was with was having a good time.  I went to the movies by myself (easy), dinner by myself (harder), and even out the nightclubs by myself (hardest).  The alternative was staying home and I knew I didn’t want to do that all the time. 

I’ve had a lot of time in between relationships where I haven’t dated for months and I really think it allowed me to grow as a person. 

Some people though, don’t have the ability to do that.  My sisters guy friend back home is one of the worst at this.  He will go back to a women who is treating him like shit just so he doesn’t have to sleep alone.  I find it to be a very destructive behavior.  I’ve had girlfriends like that too and when they ask myopinion of what they should do, and I tell them to spend some time by themselves, they go right back to a guy just so they don’t have to be alone!  WTF!  It makes me not want to give them advise because they don’t freaking listen! 

Now, I am on a journey to figuring out why I’m still single.  I’m certainly not perfect and I do play a role in this.  I would like to think it’s all the guys fault, but I know it’s not.  I have some bad dating habits, but I absolutely do have the ability to be by myself.  I think it’s an important component to a healthy life.  We never know what life has in store for us, so we better love our own company just in case it’s all we have!  Maybe I’ve been alone too long though and don’t crave the company of another?  Hmmmmm, makes me think!