Want to be wanted?

This  post references back to Dr. Mike’s comment on the Need to be Needed post.  I found it interesting that he included that we need to be wanted by the opposite sex, unless you swing the other way, then you would need to be wanted by your own sex.  So, why I found this so interesting, is that it’s very true!  It’s like if your friends are having a party, and you have no desire to go to it, you still want to be invited!  

It’s always nice to be wanted, admired and such.  I think that is why a lot of people are on Match and other dating sites.  You don’t necessarily want to date, but you want to be wanted.  It’s nice to know the opposite sex finds you attractive, that’s one of the reasons flirting is so much fun. 

I find flirting to normally be a harmless practise that lets us know we are still desirable.  I mean, come on, as a girl and even if you have a special someone, it’s nice to go out with friends and have people think you’re attractive!  I know I like it! So the question in life (at least today), need to be needed, or want to be wanted.  Kinda like at Christmas, my mom would say, do you need it or just want it??  Well, usually, unless it was really special, I just wanted it.  I could certainly live without it, but it would be a lot of fun to have it!  Now, how does that related to the dating world. 

Well, I think a lot of us may be just fine by ourselves, but it is so wonderful to feel wanted.  Whether that means a smile in your direction, a note on an online dating site, or someone coming up to you and telling you how pretty you look today.  We all need validation that we are desirable as people and maybe that’s enough for this moment. 

I know I”m a vain person (shock to those of you who know me right??)  and I am the first to admit I need this want.  If I don’t get enough attention from the one I’m with, I look for it elsewhere.  Not saying I cheat if I’m in a relationship, but I love even when my friends or kids tell me I look pretty.  Most of the time, I like to look nice just for myself, but I do like the attention also.  So, I guess I’m a conundrum again.  I don’t exactly want to be needed, but I need to be wanted.  Make sense?  It does to me!  Gee, I feel like I just figured out another piece of the puzzle that’s me!  Thanks Mike!

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