Rules of dating…

I went on some dating websites last night to do “research”, (yea right) and it seems that there are still stupid rules for dating.  Now this applies to both men and women and so I was reading them.

Interestingly enough, they had completely different points of view.  The guy rules focused on being presentable.  You know, shower, have nice shoes on because women notice and that kind of shit.  It also told them to open doors and be polite.

WTF?????  Don’t all guys know to fucking take a shower and smell nice?  Do they need a rule for that??  Maybe I haven’t been the unfortunate one to go out with a stinky man??  Maybe they do need that rule and I just didn’t know it!  Anyway, the guy rules had to do with hygiene and stuff and I found it very fluffy.

Now, get to the girl rules.  All the girl rules had to do with playing games with the boys heads and being manipulative.  Again, WTF??????  I guess people know that women are smart enough to shower and we obviously know about nice shoes, but in order to get a guy I have to ignore him for 3 days before I send an email or call him back?  Why the fuck do I want to do that?  Maybe it’s to make them into a hunter and get them to persue me.  I am also supposed to be evasive in my answers about myself to create mystery.  BTW, these rules were from the same website, so obviously the same moron came up with them for both men and women.

You know what, they guys rules are sooooo much easier.  I don’t want to be evasive, I’m a blurter!  I like to blurt out whatever comes into my little noggin whenever it hits!  Hahahahah!  Maybe why I’m still single???  Hmmmmm…  I want the easy rules too! I’m not interested in playing games at my age,  maybe the rules were written by a 20 something for the 20 something crowd.  When you get to be my age, I appreciate the open, honest answers with humor please.  I’m going to let you know if I like you, let you know if I don’t and screw the 3 day rules and the 3 date rule too.

But in case you want to know, showerin before the date is not optional, if you think it is, please don’t call.

Thank God for friends!

As a single woman trying to figure shit out, you may have noticed I rely on the advise, comfort and silliness of my friends.  I’m very blessed with wonderful women that love me know matter how insane I act and how many stupid things I do.

My friends know my darkest secrets and will take them to their grave as I would do for them.  I would do anything for them and love to make them laugh.  Sometimes, I wonder if we have evolved past having relationships with guys because they are soooo much fucking work and everything with my friends is so easy!

I love my girl time and trying to figure out the world and men or just getting drunk and saying screw it!  Many of my close friends work with me too, so whether we are talking bout work or men or kids or how our asses looks fat in these jeans, we always have fun.  Okay, maybe the fat ass isn’t that fun, but it doesn’t stop us from eating or drinking wine.

I think that’s why so many skinny girls are cranky, they need to eat!  Heck, I get cranky if I go to long without food and from the size of these girls, they may not have eaten in this decade!  So, what do your friends mean to you?  Do you have lots? I don’t necessarily think you need tons of friends, just a few really good ones.

Girls with friends don’t tend to trust girls without friends. There is something wrong with that situation.  Those are the girls that will throw you under a bus for the attention of a guy.  A girl’s girl won’t do that.  We value  our friendships because we know that when times get hard, it’s our friends that pull us out of the shit.  So, I guess the bottom line is, I’m grateful for the women in my life and the love and friendship they give me.  I wouldn’t be the person I am without them.   xoxoxo to all my besties!

Should we plan for the future?

So, here I am about to end another year and reflecting on it. It’s been a little weird, I aint gonna lie.  Things that have happened have surprised me and made me so grateful for the life that is mine.  It may not be the drama free, but I have to own it.

I guess my thoughts are to improvement on myself in the next year and to continue to evolve.  I think one of the things that keeps me stuck in my mire is my fears of financial security.  Does anyone else have that?  I think the economy has a lot of people still spooked and that includes myself.

Job wise?  I’m very good at what I do, I have a great company and wonderful people to work with and put my all into making sure they are successful, because that means I’m successful.  Still, I find myself wishing I win the lottery!  Not that it means I would quit, because I find myself bored when I’m away from work for 2 weeks, but I think if I had no financial issues, it would be easier to date.

Dating for me means I want a man who is successful. I’ve dated men who made $2oo,ooo a year to men who make several million a year.  And the weird thing is, that I felt more comfortable dating the guys that made less.  Isn’t that weird?  Sometimes, I think a guy who makes a shit load of money thinks he’s above the rest of us.  They tend to be the guys that are after everyone,  because they have enough money to do it, and the more successful they are in business, they less secure they are in their personal relationships.

Money isn’t bad, I just don’t want to date because of it, but I find it a factor in my choosing a man.  That fucking sucks. I wish I could let it go and maybe that’s the lesson I need to learn for 2010.  What’s your lesson to learn?  (I like lessons better than resolutions, less threatening!)