How damaging is texting?
January 12, 2010 at 10:59pm01 6 comments
Okay, I admit that I love to text. It’s a great way to communicate with my kids and my friends and when you don’t really want to talk, it gets the job done. Unfortunately, a lot of what is in a text form, gets in translation.
So many of us use texting to fight, make up, break up and tell other people off. I know when I get a test that is all capital letters, I think the person is yelling at me and it makes me mad. One of our friends was texting like that, but he wasn’t yelling, he just has really bad eyesight and he was using caps to see better! Opps, sorry!
So, what other messages are misunderstood? Well, text it, and it can have problems. I have been in relationships where I think the guy has broken up with me, but I’m not quite sure. That really sucks. You sit around and wonder and if the other person doesn’t text you back, you’re like in fucking text limbo. The delay in communication can make you crazy!
Another problem with texting is you shorten the words so it’s faster and use abbreviations, but when you don’t put exactly what you want, you can totally be taken wrong. You spend a lot of time redoing the text to explain what was misunderstood from the original text which takes longer than it would if you just spelled it out the first time. Phew. Is anybody tired of this??
What ever happened to sitting down and talking, or talking over the phone?? Why do we put ourselves through this?? I’m just as guilty of this as anyone. I misunderstand texts and write confusing texts although I’m not trying to do. I just think a lot of what we mean to say includes the tone and texture of our voice not just our words. When we lose that, we can lose the intention of the message. In the age of electronic communication, we are losing the human aspect of communication. And sometimes, it sucks.
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1. hangerbaby | January 12, 2010 at 10:59pm01
Texting is one of the most powerful social tools available to us as far as relationships go. I would say that I’ve ‘sealed the deal’ primarily through text messages. Modern Americans live very high pace lifestyles, the amount of things we have to occupy our time are quite plentiful.
Yes, there are problems with texting. That’s why texting shouldn’t be the main form of communication. However, it is STILL communication. Communication is easily one of the more important and powerful things in relationships. Ever been ignored for a day? It really sucks more than not getting a call for a day, doesn’t it? Weird how that works.
Anyways, cool blog, seems a little subjective though.
2. kisskiss | January 13, 2010 at 10:59am01
you are so right about being text ignored! I think because it only takes a few moments, and everyone has that right?? Thanks for the comment, you are soooo right. Cheers!
3. lantz | January 13, 2010 at 10:59pm01
not to go all geeky, but there is a study that showed that 7% is verbal, 38% is tone and 55% is facial expression in a face to face communication. We need to have those non verbal clues to get the full meaning many times. So the important things should be talked about! If someone is breaking up with you via text or email, they are complete chickens and assholes! Says something about who they really are.
4. hangerbaby | January 13, 2010 at 10:59pm01
Not always the case. If you have an overly emotional partner, breaking up over the phone or text/email might be the proper way of doing it. Emotions affect judgement, specifically pity. If you are afraid of hurting them and having to cope with them or possibly diffuse anger, then using alternative methods of breaking it off would be a better idea.
As long as the intention of breaking up is pure, and it is not coming from a place of “lesson teaching”, I see no real big issue with it.
No, it doesn’t say anything about what kind of person they are. It says they don’t want to see you bawl your eyes out and possibly insult or blame them for something. Or they just don’t want to see you in general.
5. kisskiss | January 13, 2010 at 10:59pm01
So, at what point time wise do you think you need a face to face?? Is it after 3 months? Is it after a year? Is there any general rules? Sometimes, texting is so much easier because you lose the emotion. I know I love getting someones voice mail at times, because I just don’t feel like talking to them. But at what point is using social medias just cowardly and rude?
6. kisskiss | January 13, 2010 at 10:59pm01
maybe the text should come with emoticons to help us out! Amazing that 55% is facial expressions. What happens when someone over uses botox and has no more expression lines?? HAHAHA! Happens in my biz! Hugs to you!