You always want what you can’t have…

Why is it we always want what we can’t have??  Even if we did have it at one time and didn’t want it, as soon as it’s gone, is when we decide we want it back.  I remember my kids when they were little, had toys that they hadn’t played with for months, but the moment I wanted to sell it in a garage sale, or give it away, it became the most precious toy of all!  So, that being said, I think this is a behavior that is ingrained in us from the beginning.

Now, let’s move this from toys to relationships.  When men and women break up, they want nothing to do with the other person….. UNTIL, someone else wants them.  Nobody is as desirable as someone who is desired by another.  Kinda like the toy huh??

I have a friend who was dating a guy  who was in the midst of getting divorced.  I told her that nothing good was going to come of it.  For some reason, men getting divorced think they can handle getting divorced, transitioning into a singleton, helping the kids get adjusted and starting a new relationship.  Women once in a while think they can, but let me tell you, IT’S NOT FUCKING POSSIBLE!!!!!!!!

When you’re getting a divorce, you need to focus on you and the divorce and your kids.  Don’t bring someone else into the mix!  All that will happen, is the new person is gonna get their heart stomped on when the divorcing person finally realizes that they can’t do it all!  That is exactly what happened to my friend, and no I didn’t say I told you so, I’m not that meany!

Now, after a few weeks of not talking to the guy (who is the one who said he can’t deal with starting a new relationship and told her he wouldn’t be talking to her or texting any more), the guy starts texting her again.  WTF?????  He’s been sending her texts that says that he misses her and he’s thinking about her….  This guys is such a dick.  It’s like he’s realized that someone else might be interested in his toy, and he wants to stay in her head a little longer to fuck with her.

I told her not to respond and hopefully she wont.  I may sound a little harsh in my thoughts about the guy, but seriously, once you’ve said you can’t deal with everything in your life, does 3 weeks make a difference?  I’m sure he’s still not divorced, still is going to be adjusting with his kids and still needs to leave her alone.

Note to everyone, male or female.  If the person isn’t divorced or is currently separated leave them alone!  They have a lot of shit to deal with mentally, emotionally and financially. They may be a catch in the future, but in the meantime, throw them back!