Change is in the air????

I met a 28-year-old guy at work last month and he was very entertaining.  He also had some insight into the male/female role-playing, which surprised me considering his age.  One of the things he was talking about was what we do as men/women or boy/girls whatever one you want.  He said that when a guy finds a girl he likes, he’s hoping she wont change and when a girl finds a guy she likes, she’s hoping he will change.

I found a lot of truth in this, especially in the younger generations.  Now, I’m not saying that it doesn’t happen to us 40 somethings, but I do know that I’ve gotten past believing a guy will change, so I don’t bother.  I remember getting married and hoping I could change my husband into the man I wanted.

Now looking back I think, what the fuck was I thinking???  Why would I want to change someone I just married??  Well, because he had a lot of the qualities that I was looking for, he just needed some tweaking!  I could change the way he dressed, and I did do that one (very easy btw), but I couldn’t change his behavior or his personality.

I married a guy who was mostly about him, and since he is still in my life, being the baby daddy, he is exactly the way he was back in his 20′s.  Maybe a little worse!  I’m very grateful not to be married to him anymore, not that he’s a bad guy, but we don’t mesh and we are both aware of it.

Now, guys on the other hand have it right.  They meet someone and hope they don’t change.  Sometimes women play the game of being whatever the guy wants to get him.  Then, after they guy is smitten, she starts acting the way she really is and that throws the guy a curve ball.  He’s thinking, where is the sweet girl I fell in love with and how did this bitch take her place??

I think that is one of the great things about getting older.  We are the way we are, and nobody is going to change us.  We may make modifications to ourselves, but our mindset is pretty much done.  I know what my deal breakers are and what I can live with.  I also know to pick a guy  that has  bad habits I can live with.

I hate certain things, tardiness, rudeness, selfishness and bad teeth.  HAHAHAHAH!  It is true though, hate bad teeth.  I love passion for things/life (even if he is intense, because I am) honesty, beautiful eyes, brains, and wit. As long as the wit is quick, not dim.  I love a good smart ass and someone who can keep me on my toes and doesn’t get his butt hurt when I dish it out too.  And lets not forget a guy who loves sports, I love them too!  Give me a guy like that and who loves to have sex and I’m alllll good.

Maybe Nick (the guy that came up with the change theory) knows more than his age shows.  He’s a pretty smart cookie for having figured this out.