ME, no ME!

So, before you start calling me a narcissist because of the title of my post, let’s consider how important it is to focus on ourselves.   Now, I’m not saying that it’s all about me (gee, that would be nice though huh??), but I find that I’m a better person in general when I take time for myself to do things that make me happy.

I know that when I get stressed, and that’s been a lot lately, I find myself heading outside and going for a walk with my dog, or a run for me.  I used to do yoga, need to start again, because it makes me really happy, so it just means carving out a little more time for me.  As my kids get older, they need me less or so they think, it’s allowing me focus a little more on myself.  Is it bad? I don’t think so, I think it’s really healthy to do the things that make you a better person, mom, wife, or friend.

The more people pull at us, the more we need to pull back a little.  I’ve gotten better at saying no, if I know it’s going to put me in a bad position.  If I can help someone, I love being able too, but as the stresses of our lives mount, we need to simplify a bit.  Now, that doesn’t mean I’m cutting back on shoes, don’t be stupid, but I find myself staying in more, and reading, or just breathing.

Maybe that’s why I am having trouble in the relationship portion, I’m staying home too much!  I think as I’ve matured (okay, those of you who know me are laughing at the mature comment) I’m learning to accept myself more, and be a little kinder to myself.  With that said, wouldn’t that make me a better person to be around?? I’m not talking about my driving, I do have an issue with beeping at other drivers for their obvious mistakes, but I want to be a more tolerant person, which means I have to be more tolerant with me.

I’m the hardest person I know on myself and I’m a work in progress.  Maybe that’s the lesson I need to learn to move forward in the relationship arena.  I love myself very much, and know I’m a good person, mom and friend, but sometimes we all need a little reminder of that.  So that being said, maybe I need 2 walks with my dog today!

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